Excusable aggression against a wife

Final Judgement of Dissolution of Marriage, Division 49, 7th Judicial Circuit Court, Kim C. Hammond Justice Center in Bunnell, Fla., prepared by C. Michael Barnette, Esq., with The Law Office of C. Michael Barnette, Daytona Beach, Fla.

“The mother indicated that on February 24, 2010, the father threw her into a door causing injuries. The father testified that the mother instigated the episode requiring him to push her off of him into the door in self-defense.

The mother alleged that in 2007 the father threw a dinner plate and chair at her. The father denied the incident.

The mother alleged that on election day 2008 the father held her against the wall and that she retreated to the bathroom. She alleged that the father tried to break into the bathroom. The father denied the episode.

The mother alleged that the father grabbed her arm on May 8, 2010…The father testified that the mother attacked him resulting in his call to 911 for police involvement. Jonathan Smith, FL DCF,…testified that the mother denied physical violence between herself and the father except she made some reference to being pushed out of a door. //

This court specifically finds in relation to the allegations of domestic violence in February 2007, November 2008, February 2010, and May 2010, that the mother has knowingly provided false information to this court and the court of Missouri regarding acts of domestic violence.” (pages 7-10, first draft, FJDM)

What do you say to this? I vomited when Judge Dennis Craig spoke these words. Actually, I vomited for real when I realized I had lost custody to my abuser, but the urge began here.

How can a father admit to being physically aggressive towards the mother, and yet the information about domestic violence is false? I guess if you believe in victimizing the victim, believing she deserved it, asked for it, provoked it, whatever.

Blame the victim. Exalt the abuser. Repeat cycle.

Even if I had been the aggressor, which is pretty hard comparing our sizes with him resting comfortably at 170lbs and I scrape 100lbs after a full day of eating, Judge Dennis Craig ruled there is, in existence, excusable violence.

Please, then, feel free to punch the next looked-at-me-weird girl on the streets. She looked at you.



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