It shouldn’t be tolerated, ever. But what defines abuse? An impulsive slap, once, during a heated, and highly defensive argument? An impulsive slap during every heated, highly defensive argument? Both? The pattern, recognizing if there is a pattern and where it lies, is key to discerning a truly heart-wrenching mistake from permission to continue.
Judge Dennis Craig of the 7th Judicial Circuit, Flagler County, Fla., decided that 4 date-able physical attacks, and numerous others without firm dates, is within the tolerable range. I didn’t call the police; there are no police reports. I also didn’t stick around long enough to call the police. Donkey has a collection of weapons and a history of violence. I didn’t wait around for it to get bad enough to have to go to the emergency room, or call for an ambulance.
I didn’t realize I hadn’t suffered enough abuse to protect myself and my children.