I am honored to feature Buckwheatsrisk while her blog is under construction. I have been strengthened by her resolve to evict the victimization in her life and become an outspoken survivor determined to unveil the atrocities of non-physical abuse that victims endure.
Now I turn over the microphone to Buckwheatsrisk:
Yesterday a thought crossed my mind (yes another thought 😉 ). Why is it that those of us who have been abused and escaped are the ones that have to change everything?
It’s been liberating for me to cut ties with the family, but frustrating in another way. I am the one who has been abused and I’m the one that basically has to go into hiding like a criminal and that really sucks. I had to get rid of my old FB account, I had to get rid of my long-standing email address, I have to go under a pseudo name on-line with any account I have, that connects to my abuse in any way. I’ve even had to not allow friends of mine on my FB account now because they have befriended a family member. I had to move from where I was born and raised to escape the pressure they put on me. The abuse.
Why is it that the abusers always seem to get away with everything, while their victims pay in every way for their crimes? That’s what they are, crimes!
It’s even in the court system and of course the government system. It’s infuriating to think about. This world seems to have everything ass backwards (forgive the term).
Narcissistic/sociopaths are just as wickedly abusive as those that physically abuse and yet no one sees the scars and unhealed wounds they leave. They are not visible to the naked eye but they are visible if one looks closely. These people are dangerous people, and often they will physically abuse, they even have the potential to kill, yet they are cowards so more often, they will beat, whip and abuse with their tongues. They will manipulate, guilt and lie to control you. They will use mind games to convince you that you are the one that is bad, wrong, messed up and needs fixing…Well ya, now I need fixing because of you, I wouldn’t have otherwise! At least I can recognize when I need help!
Something in this world has to change when it comes to holding abusers accountable for their actions. I am tired of being guilty until I’m proven innocent. I’m tired of having to prove that I have been abused. You know many people don’t tell because they figure they won’t be believed. Sadly that is all too true. Why the abusers aren’t automatically found guilty like the victims seem to be, I’ll never know!
This is just so wrong! With such a modern society, it seems the principles and values are primitive. How do we change this?!
What is your take on this?
There has to be hope here for all of us who have lived with injustice our whole lives!
Please join me in thanking Buckwheatsrisk for sharing her heartfelt thoughts. This is all too true. Victims of abuse are considered guilty for allowing it to happen. No one asks to be abused. No one hopes their father wants them to feel like they are useless or a bother or imperfect. No one accepts a date and hopes to be lied to, manipulated, degraded, or punched.