Talking About Domestic Violence

In the blogging community, everyone has the floor at the same time. There is no need to take turns, and this can generate conversation like nothing else. No matter the topic, dozens of conversations can happen at the same time.

I adore Rarasaur, and so when she told me about one such conversation, I was moved. Christine Keith, author of  Adventures of a Thrifty Mama, and her son Isaac lost their lives at the hands of her ex-husband, and the blogging community had come together to honor her memory and spread the word about domestic violence and a Memorial Fund and donation drive set up for her surviving children. 

Christine wasn’t the only woman murdered at the hands of an abuser that day. Every day, the world over, women are humiliated, beaten, and killed by men – husbands, boyfriends, brothers, fathers. Every day these same men are forgiven, sometimes by law, sometimes by family, almost always by society.

Now is a good time to do something to help a family victimized by domestic violence. Donate to the Christine Keith Memorial Fund. Call the DV hotline for your state and find out if any shelters in your area need holiday decorations, gifts, or meals for families in residence. Be an advocate for a friend.

Always is a good time to help a women in need. Don’t ignore the signs. Listen. Understand that it takes covert operations to escape, and a complete escape isn’t possible with children. Don’t let your silence send a women into another day of suffering.

The Blog Hop – A Conversation About Domestic Violence

In Memory of Christine Keith – Calibamamom
Love Shouldn’t Hurt: In Honor of Christine Keith – The Insomniacs Dream
Dear Friend, Abuse Is Never OK. – Hairpin Turns Ahead
In Honour of Chris Keith – Stop Domestic Violence – My Life. My Son. My Way
A story of a little girl I knew – and why I’m telling you about her – Honest Mom
Fight Or Flight? – Surviving Domestic Abuse – My Life As Lucile
“Last Week [She] Was Killed By Her Husband” – the 818
You are not alone: In memory of Christine Keith – PenPaperPad
Kiss With a Fist – Becoming Super Mommy
I Have a Secret, by Anonymous – DeBie Hive
Talking about teen dating violence with Elin Stebbins Waldal, author of “Tornado Warning” – Midlife at the Oasis
On Domestic Violence: The Resistant Client – The Family Pants
In Memory of Chris Keith – Scary Mommy
Remembering Chris Keith, aka “The Adventures of a Thrifty Mama” – Poor As Folk
In Memory of Chris Keith – Toddling Around Chicagoland
STOP Domestic Violence – In Honor of Christine Keith – Mommy Needs a Martini
Domestic Violence: How Your Old Cell Phone Can Help – Rocks, No Salt Mommy
Shining a Light on Domestic Violence: In Memory of Chris Keith and Her Son Isaac – Raising Wild Things
Red Flags That Could Save You, or Someone You Love. – The Next Step
A Memorial Post – Been There Done That With Kat
When Doing Everything Right Isn’t Enough – Lee Grover

NDVH

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18 comments

  1. Great post Melanie, thanks for remembering those in need. If there are any followers in the metro area of Oregon that would like to give directly to woman and children in Shelter , there will be a catered luncheon Monday December 23rd at the community center for those in a local shelter.We are still in need of a few toy and personal care for stockings. You can meet at shelter and help serve lunch to these wonderful women and children.

    1. Thank you Becki. That’s a great suggestion. I hope you and the shelter get everything they need.

      1. I hope they do too, reaching our goal would be awesome. But we have to remember not to forget about the needs of those suffering during the rest of the year. January – March is when donations really decline.

  2. Thank you for spreading the word on this, Melanie. *hugs*

    1. I’m glad I could. Thank you for letting me know about it. {hugs} back to you

  3. I didn’t know Chris, or know her blog. But domestic violence I do know. I hope everyone who can help will. May light and love be with all victims or survivors of domestic violence, always.

    1. We’re in the same boat. I didn’t know Chris or her blog, but I do know domestic violence. That’s why I wanted to share this, because we don’t all know each other, but we’re in it together. Together we can spread the word and work towards ending it.

  4. Reblogged this on Ladywithatruck's Blog and commented:
    I didn’t know this woman personally but I think we can all relate to her life. Please, if you are in a violent relationship or just left a domestic abuse situation; don’t doubt what they are capable of. If you suspect or know someone is in an abusive relationship offer help, don’t then a blind eye.

    1. A conversation was started through this tragedy, and it’s up to us to keep it going. Thank you for sharing this Carrie.

  5. Thanks so much for putting this out there. Every opportunity should be taken to keep talking about it in a public forum.
    There was also a post on HuffPo by Lea Grover
    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lea-grover/when-doing-everything-right-isnt-enough_b_4422429.html

    1. Thank you for sharing the HuffPo piece Lori, and thank you for your part in spreading the discussion. I agree we need to talk about this in the public as much as possible and that’s why this whole blog is focused on domestic violence.

  6. I knew of her blog through a friend who shared a few of her posts, and I am gutted to hear that she died at the hands of her estranged husband. Thanks for sharing this important message, Melanie.

    1. Thank you for coming over Jen. This is an important message, and one I’m glad to have the strength to share. It happens every day, and I hope someday it doesn’t.

  7. This kind of stuff just makes me ill. As a society we really do need to do more to protect women, and especially women who have the courage to escape abusers. I have heard far too many tale of women who die at the hands of abusers. Thanks for doing your part in raising awareness. 🙂

    1. Thank you for being here Dani. The best protection for women still in it is our support to help her escape. The best protection for women after escaping is to listen and believe, and act against the perpetrator rather than blaming the victim and forgiving the abuser.

  8. Thank you so much for sharing this, Melanie.

    1. Thank you Tamara for your post. It’s my favorite part of the blogging community, the way people come together for each other. What you and everyone did for the memory of Chris is beautiful.

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