Category Entertainment

DVA 2013: The Hollywood Victim

*I give away the endings to old movies: Waitress, Enough, & Sleeping With The Enemy While discussing the rape scene in the movie The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo in the comments for “Rated M for Misogyny” on A Clown on Fire, I remarked, “The scene bothered me because of the gratuitous violence, but also because […]

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and it’s time to spotlight this ignored private matter. Let’s take this 4-day old story: LAPD Detectives concluded Johnny Lewis murdered 81-year-old Catherine Davis. His violence had been escalating from petty theft to burglary to assault with a deadly weapon to, finally, murder. The creator of Lewis’s most recent stardom, Kurt Sutter of […]

Laura goes home with Martin and other alternate endings

Rape in Mainstream Movies I was inspired by Sarah S at Girls Like Giants as she reflected on rape in movies and the trend towards Oscar nominations for the actress victims. One part in particular struck me; Sarah S wrote, I suspect that makers of these films, similarly to Larsson, believe they are drawing attention to […]

What Kim Kardashian can teach us about abuse

“I thought about calling the police but was afraid and decided not to do so.” (Kim Kardashian) An abusive relationship includes a rush to get to the next level; abusers blame others for their problems & control their partner’s every move. They generally feel a sense of entitlement & don’t view their behavior as wrong. Emotional, financial, & sexual abuse usually […]

[Music DV] You may be glad, but she didn’t say she wanted it

We’ll thank Glee* for this one later: after chart-topping performances in Ireland and the UK, “a new, refreshing sound and a perfect song for the summer which really gets you in the mood for a party” (Tom Parker) comes along and ruins my summer parties. Violence in “Glad You Came” by The Wanted I know! I […]

DV101: Warning Signs

It’s a radio ad for UMSL And a Lesson in DV101 There is no way to guess out of what context this conversation was taken. The two speakers, shall we call them Dick & Jane for shits & grins?, may be in a perfectly healthy relationship that continues along the path of mutual respect, but […]

[Music DV] Violence is not fun and youth is no excuse

I’m going to drive the wrong way down a crowded freeway and admit I don’t like this song, the first song to sell over 300,000 singles for more than six weeks; it makes me ill. We’ve been taken in by a charming abuser.

It feels like fighting Tyler Durden

Chuck Palahniuk created a memorable character who existed in the imagination beyond the edges of sanity. If you haven’t read (or watched) Fight Club, I’m about to ruin it for you. Tyler Durden is an abuser. He is controlling, violent, unpredictable, and rules by domination. And, like any abuser, he confounds reality; the reader is […]