Category Your Stories

Judge Craig, Reassigned

Oh happy day! I thought I’d have to wait for re-election to have a new judge, but no. Seems the gods of the judicial system have seen fit to re-assign Judge Dennis Craig out of Flagler County and in to Volusia County. 4 Years In, Judge Dennis Craig Is Reassigned to Volusia and Replaced by […]

Thank you

What a year, equal parts good and evil, which is an improvement over 2012 which was pretty much hell. In 2013, Donkey didn’t get away with being an asshole about what time the kids and I have together, he hasn’t gotten away with closing this blog, and a woman’s life was saved. In 2013, I […]

Sick House

            “Are you safe?” The question seemed surreal at 2am in December of 2009.   My thoughts barely hugged the sanity rails as the cop’s lips moved slowly.  My hands were glued to the steering wheel, clammy and cold.   My wrists hurt.  I shivered under my pink chenille bathrobe and pajamas.  Bright flashlight burned my […]

Idealization, and trauma bonding

I’m a thinker. I’m analytical. I look at all aspects of any given topic before forming my own conclusion. Some might say I think WAY TOO MUCH! But, be that as it may, it’s my own curse and its been invaluable to me. Sometimes, as in the case of my relationship with a Psychopath 2 […]

I loved that guy. Who’s this guy?

People always say, “I don’t know how you put up with it for so long.”  As I sat next to my ex at our son’s high school basketball game last week, I pondered that very thing.  How was I married to this guy for so long?  The truth is that I wasn’t married to this guy.  I […]

I’m a survivor NOT a victim

“I am a survivor of abuse, not a victim. I have gone through hell and come back. I am strong, I am beautiful, I am worthy of true love no matter what you said to me. Anger is weakness and patience is strength. There is a reason for everything. Being patient and allowing time to […]

Light in Vignettes

The sky was the brightest of blues the day I first saw him.  He was walking into the red brick church, clearing the steps two at a time as the sunlight, white in the clear sky, shone on his tall form. “See,” my friend said. “I told you he was cute.” I was home from […]

Abuse is Not Final

A few days ago I took some time to read through the blogs here and was deeply moved by what people have had to go through. More than that, I was very surprised at how familiar all the stories were. I could see a pattern that ran through the different types of abuse (emotional, physical […]