Tag Archives: physical abuse

Thank you

What a year, equal parts good and evil, which is an improvement over 2012 which was pretty much hell. In 2013, Donkey didn’t get away with being an asshole about what time the kids and I have together, he hasn’t gotten away with closing this blog, and a woman’s life was saved. In 2013, I […]

I’m a survivor NOT a victim

“I am a survivor of abuse, not a victim. I have gone through hell and come back. I am strong, I am beautiful, I am worthy of true love no matter what you said to me. Anger is weakness and patience is strength. There is a reason for everything. Being patient and allowing time to […]

The Aftermath of Abuse

When Melanie asked me if I wanted to add a guest post to Deliberate Donkey, I was overwhelmed and excited.  I couldn’t believe that someone read only part of my story and had interest enough for me to share on their site.  I happily accepted – and then I panicked.  What was I going to talk […]

The Eye of the Tiger, Part 2

Chapter 2 – Anger A Five Part Series, Part 1 I’ve an image in my pocket Of some dark demon That temptation brought to life And it chokes all of my breath out I’m scratching and screaming’ ‘Til morning comes to night Melissa Etheridge Numb. Broken.  Angry.  Alone.  Scared. Ashamed.  Guilty. Silent. I had just […]

DVA 2013: Keeping Awareness Going

It’s October so there’s a big focus right now on Domestic Violence Awareness. People who wouldn’t otherwise shout from the rooftops, carry signs, or even simply utter the terrifying and embarrassing words, domestic violence, find it’s easier to be vocal when the crowd is chanting like-wise. Good. I get that not everyone can talk about […]

DVA 2013: Bringing Awareness

There are so many of us, so many. I believe the more we talk about it, the easier it will be for people to hear, the easier it is for people to hear, the more likely we are to really get something done about it. There are so many victims, and the overlap between victims […]

I didn’t know it was abuse

I didn’t know it was abuse. I thought when he left bruises on their bottoms it was just an accident. I’m sure he didn’t mean to hurt them. Owies and bruises and bumps because they hurt themselves in his care didn’t mean that he wasn’t watching them. Kids are clumsy and hard to keep an […]

Abuse in Another Language

I shared my story about my relationship with Bray on DD last year for Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  Here is a closer look. Only once in my entire relationship with Bray was I asked about abuse.  We were walking through shops and along the shoreline in Konstanz, Germany.  I noticed an older woman following us from […]