Tag Archives: violence against women
12 months later
Not writing for a year has done nothing to improve relations or communications between me and Donkey. I’m not surprised. I could have told you that, but now I have 12 months of rancid texts and emails to back me up. Gotta love evidence. I didn’t set out to take such a long break, and […]
Feeling Believed
In the immediate aftermath of abuse, life feels insurmountable. It feels like driving an out-of-control race car headed toward the wall, like you’re behind the wheel, gripping and steering, but the only end is to crash and burn. It’s accelerated when compassion leans away from the victim towards the victimizer.
Thank you
What a year, equal parts good and evil, which is an improvement over 2012 which was pretty much hell. In 2013, Donkey didn’t get away with being an asshole about what time the kids and I have together, he hasn’t gotten away with closing this blog, and a woman’s life was saved. In 2013, I […]
Talking About Domestic Violence
In the blogging community, everyone has the floor at the same time. There is no need to take turns, and this can generate conversation like nothing else. No matter the topic, dozens of conversations can happen at the same time. I adore Rarasaur, and so when she told me about one such conversation, I was […]
I’m a survivor NOT a victim
“I am a survivor of abuse, not a victim. I have gone through hell and come back. I am strong, I am beautiful, I am worthy of true love no matter what you said to me. Anger is weakness and patience is strength. There is a reason for everything. Being patient and allowing time to […]
Light in Vignettes
The sky was the brightest of blues the day I first saw him. He was walking into the red brick church, clearing the steps two at a time as the sunlight, white in the clear sky, shone on his tall form. “See,” my friend said. “I told you he was cute.” I was home from […]
Abuse is Not Final
A few days ago I took some time to read through the blogs here and was deeply moved by what people have had to go through. More than that, I was very surprised at how familiar all the stories were. I could see a pattern that ran through the different types of abuse (emotional, physical […]
With the tap of an app
Call the police. How many times are victims told to do this? Questioned as to why they didn’t? Call the police. Three words, very simple words. They don’t take much to utter, only four syllables. Victims are in a difficult position when it comes to calling the police. They have to get access to a […]
Deliberate Donkey 